I recently received an email with the following subject line and content:

Success is your Birthright

Hey Gary…

We’re firm believers that everyone should taste
true success at least once in their lives.

Success is the birthright of every single individual,
and not just for the privileged few.

Today I’m willing to take you by the hand and coach
you in achieving your dreams.

Make today a miracle,
Chris Xxxx

The following is how a person Living at FLOW would respond:

Is success REALLY your birthright? 

I have searched far and wide and could not find anywhere that it says success is our birthright.  I can find many places that suggest “Happiness” is our birthright.

Recall @F-L-O-W we are all created perfect and that despite the variety of circumstances surrounding how we are born, babies are naturally happy.

It is only when after a time and we are exposed to our environment we start believing that success is our birthright.  Actually, happiness  is independent of success and that success is defined by each of us individually–many times the emergence of our life in our surround is not successful — as determined by modern day criteria!

Right now, 1 billion people don’t get enough to eat everyday to ward off immune-related diseases!

When you dig into what is proposed in our Model @F-L-O-W, you will begin to look at your life differently, often resulting in greater Happiness.  “Happiness”  is defined by each of us, because what is happiness to me may be misery to others and not success by any definition!

Once we begin to accept that we are all perfect and couldn’t be anything other than what we are, we begin to treat each other as perfect beings and not think we are better or worse than anyone else, we can begin to focus on our real success.

As contrary to Blank Slate thinking where we are imperfect–as compared to standards of success — and must spend our lives perfecting our imperfections — @F-L-O-W we experience happiness which believe it or not can stand without post-modern success as we know It.

While it’s not easy, it can be as simple as rediscovering your inborn purpose and living at flow — the world of success may not be there with open arms, but in most cases, success will find you!  For those that it doesn’t, we need to redefine success in our postmodern world!



Stress – is it good for us

At is a 14 minute video on “Stress”.

Author’s comments on video:

Have you ever felt stressed out? That’s kind of a silly question because I’m sure you have just like all of us have at one time or another. The bigger question is, has it ever left you feeling overwhelmed and unproductive?

Well, here’s a new way to look at stress with some scientific research supporting that stress is actually GOOD for you.

This is super interesting and a total life changer in regards to success in business and in life.

After you watch this video, the next time you say you’re stressed out, you’ll look at it with a healthy perspective and actually feel joy from stress?! I know it sounds crazy but…

Can you imagine what that really means?

How many people run away from stress and in turn, run away from opportunity?

How many people hear “hard work” and hide anywhere they can to avoid it because they are afraid to get “stressed out”?

There’s a list a mile long of all the things people do to avoid stress but what do you think would happen if you could transform that undesirable feeling to a feeling of joy with a simple shift in you perspective and belief?

Everything in your life would change VERY quickly wouldn’t it?

It also shows the HUGE benefit in helping others.

Psychologist Kelly McGonigal did this study and I want to thank her for sharing it at her TED talk. It’s amazing information to create transformation.

What are your thoughts on this?


Looking through Mike R. Jay’s lens:

This is a 1-5% @BS solution at best.

Almost all motivation assessments show a continuum of needs surrounding stress, how it affects us, and what levels of “tension” are good for us.

We couldn’t breathe if we didn’t have “atmospheric pressure”.  So tension, usually noted by most as stress, is important; particularly EUSTRESS which I don’t think the author states… that form of stress or tension being necessary for growth and development.

Problem is with almost all pundits is an emphasis on some “research” which makes their point.

Most of what any pundit says will more than likely represent a path or solution for about 1-5% of the population… who are designed and scaffolded epigenetically like they are.

Most of the advice to the other 95-99% is useless, ineffective, or even harmful.

What we are trying to be, do, have, become, and contribute @F-L-O-W is correlated to the design and scaffolding of your unique epigenetic purpose!

Playing Small

“There is no passion to be found in playing
small — settling for a life that is less than
the one you are capable of living.”

—Nelson Mandela: South African anti-apartheid revolutionary who served as President of South Africa

Gary’s thoughts to Mike:

The part that I have trouble with is the last 3 words, “…capable of living.”  Would that be @F-L-O-W if “capable” was defined by the person saying/thinking the phrase?  I know in most cases when someone reads that, they may think based on what society says/thinks one should be capable of doing.

Mike’s response:

The whole quote is BS [Blank Slate] because it defines or assumes a common standard.  All of us need to play smaller.  We have somehow gotten brainwashed about more!!

Some will emerge bigger.  If someone has to cajole you as Mandela does, then maybe you should consider what that really means to the cajoled as well as the cajoler!!

Gary’s follow-up:

The more and more I work at understand how to Live at FLOW the more I realize [I hope] that Living at FLWO means accepting each of us as we are.  We are all born perfect, yet with our own ways of seeing the world.

Looking at the quote again and considering Mike’s response, when Mandela said  “There is no passion to be found in playing small…” he can only reference what that means for him, as another person may be very passionate about “playing small”  and even the phrase “playing small” can be defined differently by different people based on their own point of reference.

So the quote may work great for Nelson Mandela and not work so well for anyone else.

There is no “one size fits all” and when we each stop trying to project our values and philosophy onto others, we may find our world a much better place to live.

Please comment and give your perspective as that is how we may each grow in our own individual journey through life.

For me, “Living @F-L-O-W” is helpi9ng me to see my world in a whole new way.

A Role for Governments

Something that you might have thought you would never hear me say…as even I’m saying it, it feels like someone else put it in my mouth…and that is…

…we need MORE government, not less, as complexity accelerates…unless the 1% adopts a FLOS Lens.

However, the government we have now formed is the wrong government…because they are BS and don’t understand ideas that would show the real diversity of the people, and how individual differences need to be scaffolded in order to promote adequate levels of human dignity in an exponentially complexifying set of conditions.

Most likely, we will never be able to have the government we need until we revisit the fundamental reasons for, and reasons why government is needed.  Early on, when the world was far less complex, getting out of people’s way and allowing human endeavor to emerge produced more than adequate conditions for the tide to raise all boats.

Yet, in times of accelerating complexity, where only a few will be fully conscious of the major issues up and down the stratified democracy, a republic is probably a better idea.  This is why you see so many banana republics doing as good in many ways as the other more complex forms of participative government.  In many cases, they have fractured the complexity and manage it incompletely, but well enough to scaffold, in some ways, people where they are, instead of where we are, which requires much more capability.

There is one, or several relatively capable people in these developing countries (for whatever drawbacks that capability brings with them)…who is a supreme leader.  Even in Iran, there is one person making decisions, even though there are many layers of decision-creating authority.

The bottom-line on what could be a major work is to identify that in a complex world, fewer and fewer people can put together the delays among cause and effect, and string the variables together well enough to see how small actions create disequilibrium, and a practical loss of dignity.

In allowing an elite, which basically has earned their rights vs. being endowed with them in a society where what works is who has the best game…an elite that doesn’t understand truly that what put them there, isn’t what makes up a great society, we end up with a fractured benevolence that is not correlated to needs under accelerating complexity in a post-modern world.

In other words, private individuals are not going to realize that the vast amount of wealth they have attained is due more to luck, an invisible infrastructure, and timing than anything else.  They will continue to pretend that it was their doing, projecting that onto the rest –> thinking that with enough _____________, they can do it too.

This absolves the fortunate from getting to know their fortuitous circumstances and creates an air of I did, you can, which under load is just not the case.  We ascribe too much success to our volition and not enough to our fortunes; thus creating and scaffolding the ideas that government is the purview of the elite to direct in a manner that is consistent with their needs…and that by their acts, an invisible hand will somehow reach out and scaffold the many.

OBVIOUSLY, this is not working.

While violence may be down, humiliation is up.  While we may have shifted our notions about how we treat each other, we have now crossed into dangerous territory on many fronts, where it is becoming less probable that more, not less, will benefit in terms of the dignity of civilized living in this new calendar age.

I don’t believe this makes me a socialist, or a communist, because I don’t believe that by turning race horses into plow horses we gain anything.  However, I do believe there is a ground, and it will require the figure, or ego in that ground to reverse itself and stop taking so much credit for success, and be a little more humble about what each person needs to be, do, have and become to be a functional part of civilized society.

For truly, a great society, maybe one that is not great, but humble.

Helpful Hint: Government needs to be in the scaffolding business, not in the bureaucratic business, and the difference between the momentous leap we all are watching for, will not be related to so much a bigger and more invasive government, but a government which is required to scaffold a humbler society rather than pound their chests about being representatives of a greatest nation on earth?
Action Step: Imagine this.  Imagine that we would view government as a group of people who are most suited for, and funded by, all of us towards creating the support, resources and scaffolding required by each level of capability in our society to live their capability under contribution to the whole.  And while that would take many forms, and require a continued hard line for those who outlie too far, as to disrupt the nature of civilization in progress, we can be compassionate about those outlying individuals, knowing they exist and scaffold them earlier as well as later in their journeys.  What kind of philosophy would emerge?

TPOVs @F-L-O-W: Skill vs. Inborn Motives?

“My greatest skill has been to want but little.” – Henry David Thoreau

Based on what I know about Thoreau, this is not a skill, this is a motivation that is more than likely inborn, BIG difference!!

His cabin was within walking distance to “mom’s house where he went for a good meal now and again” (scaffolding the hermitage, hehe, easier when mom is close, or so I think I read somewhere.

Caveat: Thoreau could have meant this in a way that I do not see, FYI, but the topic provides fodder for my rant, thanks!

A skill would be developed that says I have x dollars and I can get 5x what other people can get with those dollars, through compounding and leverage, as an example, part of what I am doing in the Philippines.

I can’t get what I want and I feel I need (body work per se) in the USA, so if I need/want, I can use my skill to move to a culture where instead of paying $90 dollars for a single massage, I can get it for $3, which is the price of my daily foot massage, and that same $90 was applied with skill (not inborn motivation) to last the entire month, making me feel like a king, without having me living close to mom… hehe

Helpful Hint: There is a big and notable difference between skill and motivation; skill in its various forms as it is modified by vertical, horizontal and oblique capability! We are all going to experience the juggling of needs and wants, and vice versa, so we don’t want to necessarily live a Spartan or ascetic life style per se. That is not the goal, as it is for the 1-5%, but to use compounding and leverage, along with less resource consumption for Life @F-L-O-W.

In my mind, hehe, I have a big debate going because the lectical system (which I like a lot) is based on Fischer’s skill theory and not entirely subject to the same tenets as Commons, et al Hierarchical Complexity Theory; although both derive similar results, or so it might seem. But Fischer is more @BS because of the use of developing skill… which I think you can’t do if you can’t.

The kind of skill you can develop is not the same as you can have, or generate…

Action Step: This is a key set of factors in determining not only how to explain, but how to use the skill you have to get as far as you can with what you have.

This also begins to unravel the notions of how we live @F-L-O-W… and that I believe is important.



The New Internet Sales Tax

The Internet Sales Tax, named “The Marketplace Fairness Act”, may soon become a reality in the USA and the United Nations is also pushing for it worldwide. For some, it seems like a good idea because money can now be collected for people who buy a lot on the Internet and therefore give the states more revenue to keep their states operational.

To me, as in most cases when governments try to confiscate more funds to spend on their special projects, they end up causing more negative after shocks than they imagined. The following is, to me, a very good summary of the situation.

Sovereign Man

April 23, 2013

Phnom Penh, Cambodia

Surprise, surprise… the completely insolvent US government has yet another idea to raise revenue in the Land of the Free: a new tax!

The Marketplace Fairness Act was introduced some time ago, and we’ve discussed it before. But it’s now being rushed through Congress as quickly as possible.

It’s aim? To collect sales tax for online transactions. And in addition to being financially debilitating, the bill is also a bureaucratic nightmare.

Just imagine– if passed, online retailers will have to collect a different tax for every customer based on his/her location, keep track of it all, pay the correct amount to dozens of state governments, AND file periodic reports to each of them.

It borders on the absurd. Naturally, though, the Obama administration “strongly supports” the bill because it will “level the playing field” for mom and pop shops on Main Street.

Total nonsense. This is just another money grab masquerading as good intentions for the benefit of the people.

What they haven’t managed to figure out in all this time is that raising or creating taxes doesn’t actually increase tax revenue.

In the post-war history of the United States, taxes and tax rates have been all over the board.

And yet, as a percentage of GDP, the US government consistently takes in about 17.7% of GDP in tax revenue, i.e. their ‘slice of the pie’ remains the same.

But while raising or creating taxes doesn’t actually increase total tax revenue, they can affect GDP– ‘the size of the pie.’

When taxes are high, people have a disincentive to spend, invest, or start businesses.

In this case, the bill sticks it to consumers and Internet retailers. Businesses will go under, and individuals will reduce their consumption due to higher prices.

Net result: a decline in economic activity. For the government, this means taking the same 17.7% slice of a smaller pie. It’s genius!

You’d think the government was intentionally trying to push productive people out of the US.

Think about it– the banks are insolvent, the stock market is rigged, nearly every aspect of people’s existence is criminalized and overseen… from what we can put in our bodies to whether we can collect rainwater.

And anyone wanting to start a business has a myriad of taxes and regulations to navigate, such as Obamacare or this new Internet sales tax. Why bother?

There are places in the world, like right here in Cambodia, that are teeming with opportunity, minimal regulation, and almost no competition.

This will be the other major effect of this legislation (and all the other tactics that the government is embarking upon in the Land of the Free)– people will simply leave, either physically or virtually.

From this bill, any rational Internet entrepreneur will merely restructure the company overseas where the law cannot be applied.

This is the ‘multiple flags’ approach that we have been discussing for years in this letter, and detailing exclusively in our premium service Sovereign Man: Confidential.

With a few carefully managed steps– incorporating the business in one location, processing payments from another, warehousing in another, managing from another, it’s possible (and completely legal) for online companies to escape this burden.

And I suspect a great many will do so. At least, while the window to take action is still open.

Until tomorrow,

Simon Black

Senior Editor,


If this makes sense to you, please let others know, especially your senators, if you live in the USA.

Thanks for reading,






From Aid to Enterprise: Intelligent Poverty Cures

I just read an article on the above title.  You may read the article HERE.  My comment on the article is below:

We all do need to do our part to help the poor.  It can be a 2-edged sword as the article pointed out.  If we just send food and material goods they may come to depend on us.  If we attempt to teach them how to make it on their own, they may not have the stamina to last the learning curve.

However, by scaffolding them by feeding them while they learn, more successes may follow.  This requires people willing to donate money and people willing to train the poor.

The problem is that people who could donate money, don’t, because they are afraid they won’t have enough for themselves.  What if the middle class gave up 1/3 of their wantings and used some of their savings to help the poor. 

When you look at your situation a little differently, you will be amazed at what you will discover.  By shifting from wants to needs you will no longer have the desire to compete with the “Jones” resulting in greater happiness and you begin to also experience more success because you will now define success on your terms and not how society defines success for you.

Mike R. Jay recently wrote a book named @F-L-O-W where he describes 12 prime elements on how you can experience greater happiness in you life and as a result begin to have more success.

He is actually living his philosophy.  Several years ago he started a program to help the disadvantaged poor single mothers in the Philippines by teaching them a profession as well as paying them to learn.

Twice a year he also raises funds to buy rice for them and their families.  This Easter for his Rice Fund Program he is donating the proceeds from his book.  People can purchase a great book and do good at the same time.  Finally, he is also offering a special program in April called “Life at FLOW”.  Visit to learn more.




Life @F-L-O-W


The pressure that is being applied in modern day living to maintain your edge is increasing dramatically, and the compression of time because of the pace of change is creating an illusion that we are not prepared to manage. To learn more watch the short video below.

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The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step and the world can be changed by only one person and you are staring at her/him in the mirror.

If you do NOTHING else in 2013, experience the simple notions of deepening your understanding of what you really need in your life to be on purpose…change will emerge from that.

For a guided process in self-illumination, join Mike Jay for Life @F-L-O-W, and become part of the solution, rather than part of the problem.

To register for the $197 live and recorded program, click below:

Team @F-L-O-W

PS: In order to join our MOVEMENT @F-L-O-W and get immediate access to Mike’s Talking Points, Teachable Points of View, and the Faststart @F-L-O-W, purchase the Book @F-L-O-W.







In Mike Jay’s ground-breaking book @F-L-O-W, published in 2012, after a decade of global research, he outlined a simple strategy to begin to help you decelerate your wants, shifting you back to needs that lead to a deeper and more profound pursuit of happiness.

Mike’s gambit @F-L-O-W is simple.

With impending limits to growth created by exponential scale in population, use of water, energy, and food, looming with potentially severe consequences, Mike looked beyond what most see are the limits of our current system and devised a simple way for people to become part of the solution, and less a part of the problem.

While simple, it’s not easy.

No use trying to fool anyone, if it were easy, we all would be doing it now, and frankly Mike knows that he’s going to be pretty much alone in that people change the only thing they can…and that is themselves.

Our world has grown into a model where the buck stops somewhere else, and personal responsibility is abdicated to governments, banks, and financiers.  Yet, the axiom that only one person can change the world holds true @F-L-O-W and that person…is YOU.

Mike suggests a simple set of ideas to begin to decelerate consumption, which is driving the majority of issues looming today; whether it’s money and credit, food shortages, energy prices, clean water, roads, bridges, infrastructure, or disease…all of these issues are related directly or indirectly to consumption.

For many centuries, consumption was an engine that helped create demand, and demand fulfilled a necessary cog in the wheel for jobs.  Jobs led to income, increasing demand and therefore steadily increasing levels of production and consumption.

With continued finds and development of resources, the production possibility frontier—read simply as the sky’s the limit—continued to expand and grow, allowing more and more people to find dignified work, gainful employment and better lives.

Yet population continued to grow exponentially and the distance between the haves and the have-nots begin to be driven by more complex consumption, requiring more from us than we had to give.

As we approach the more complex issues and challenges in an accelerating array of multifaceted options, we are being called into the kinds of thinking that most of us just are not capable of matching.

In simpler words, we are in over our heads, and becoming more so.

Robert Kegan’s book in the mid-nineties suggested:

“The expectations upon us…demand something more than mere behavior, the acquisition of specific skills, or the mastery of particular knowledge.  They make demands on our minds, on how we know, on the complexity of our consciousness” (Kegan, 1994, p. 5).

It’s not good or bad, lest thinking makes it so.

But what it is…

Is challenging us to solve problems and actually…

Choose problems that are the problems we can solve.

Enter @F-L-O-W

Mike’s ideas are multifaceted and involve several simple, yet counter-intuitive concepts:

  • We are not equal
  • Sameness is not fairness
  • We are not broken, and
  • Increasing our choices is probably leading to decreasing levels of happiness.

These TALKING POINTS @F-L-O-W were created by Mike as a challenge to our current BLANK SLATE paradigm, as a contrast to:

  • Let’s not keep pretending we are equal
  • However, we deserve the same treatments
  • Each of us is perfect in diverse ways, and
  • Learning to use needs instead of wants to drive choices leads to increasing levels of happiness.

These and other key talking points are offered as a gift to you by our team when you join our Movement @F-L-O-W, and register for a special program Mike is offering to participants.


In this four session program, Mike will walk you through the specific steps you can take to create these benefits for you and your family, work, and relationships:

  1. Identify those things you are doing now that seem to be things you need to change?
  2. Instead of changing them, learn why they are developing as issues.
  3. Understand a different meaning of what it means to live life on purpose.
  4. Discover very specific ways in which you can become more competent @F-L-O-W.
  5. Begin to automatically decelerate the need for more:
    a. Money
    b. Information
    c. Time
    d. Energy
    e. Attention
    f. Motivation

Here’s the bottom line.


In order to begin to give yourself more, not less choice, but need fewer choices, less becomes more.

Now, the first thing you will think is that this is about an austerity program, seemingly so much on the minds of all of us after our spending binges and use of money and credit for the past 60 years.  It’s not about that at all.

These are only symptoms of a deeper, more profound need for happiness brought about by the world that we have lived in, and our ego-needs to thrive, flourish, and belong.

It’s not bad, it just is…

AND, the consequences are looming in front of us individually and collectively.

Life for many has NEVER been better.

Even poor people today are making their first cell phone calls, enjoying the benefits of connectivity and receiving in many cases life-saving therapies and medicines.

I’m not suggesting we throw the baby out with the bathwater or abandon modern day society and progressivity per se.

What I am saying is this:

The pressure that is being applied in modern day living to maintain your edge is increasing dramatically, and the compression of time because of the pace of change is creating an illusion that we are not prepared to manage.

Fewer and fewer people will be able to manage the postmodern landscape, leaving—each day—more and more people behind to pick up the pieces.  This is a fact in the developed world that each and every citizen is facing.

You see, we are not good at, nor equipped to deal with postmodern exponential scale, growth, or complexity.  We’ve stretched our systems and capabilities beyond our limits and yet…progress continues in all its glory, sorting out quickly those with the capability to manage these steeper and steeper transitions in life’s challenges.

While on the surface, we appear as ducks on a pond, such that things are coming at us faster and faster and we’re paddling like hell underneath it all to even assimilate the simplest changes in volume of Money, Information, Time, Energy, Attention, and Motivation—all of which are strained in all of us in the postmodern climate of accelerating complexity.

For most of you, this will sound like a familiar, but distant message.

You know it’s happening, but the effects are not here yet…

But they are coming, and they are coming faster and faster and like Alice talking to the Red Queen, you’re running faster and faster, yet not able to get ahead, or in most cases, even keep up.

Have you tried to keep up with the interesting books being published lately, the research available in your field, or even the articles published this past week in your industry journals?

We’re just touching the surface and as complexity accelerates exponentially, choices scale non-linearly, life is becoming our best guess, at best, and more and more tragic at the worst.


After subjecting my own system to global demands for a decade, along with clients from around the world, I realize that finding a faster bike to pedal became a gambit I couldn’t sustain, and neither can you.

No amount of increased speed can help us now.

No “getting-things-done program”, no efficiency system, faster laptops, more training in speed reading…all of those things are lost in exponential worlds, we have limits and clearly we’re being asked to exceed them daily, all of which is contributing to more, not less, and fleeting moments of flow, not alone happiness.

All for success, and the hits just keep happening, right?

Living @F-L-O-W was vetted for more than a decade around the world in diverse cultures and the answers always came up the same:

  • Know your self and what you really need.
  • Understand your limits, live out of your talents.
  • Decelerate want-based consumption.
  • Collaborate with others to solve more complex problems.

Simple Right?


Not in our present culture of more.

While it’s time to close this note and encourage you to register for Mike’s upcoming program LIVING @F-L-O-W, know that you are not alone.

What’s occurred has not been out of mal-intent or some Machiavellian scheme. It was the use of what we thought worked best for the times.

NOW, is not the time to point fingers, to assign blame and to create discord; and dare I say, now is a time to love yourself and others, but as is said in a notable quote from Mohammed:

“Tie your camel first, then pray to god.

The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step and the world can be changed by only one person and you are staring at her/him in the mirror.

If you do NOTHING else in 2013, experience the simple notions of deepening your understanding of what you really need in your life to be on purpose…change will emerge from that.

For a guided process in self-illumination, join Mike Jay for Life @F-L-O-W, and become part of the solution, rather than part of the problem.

To register for the $197 live and recorded program, click below:

Team @F-L-O-W

PS: In order to join our MOVEMENT @F-L-O-W and get immediate access to Mike’s Talking Points, Teachable Points of View, and the Faststart @F-L-O-W, purchase the Book @F-L-O-W.


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